Why is it that when you become a mom, you need your mom even more? My mother and I have always been close and I have always needed to get my “mom fix” if I go too long without seeing her. Lately, however, I find myself missing her and needing her more than I ever could have imagined. If the baby does something funny or clever, I want to call her right away and tell her. If I am having doubts or a hard day, she always knows the perfect thing to say.
My mom came to stay with me two weeks before I had Ryder and she stayed for a month. Normally I would be sad that she was leaving, but would be okay because I knew that I would see her soon. Man. When she left after that month I cried for about four days. I am sure that some of it had to do with all those pregnancy hormones running rampant in my system, but I was still more sad than I have ever been in my entire life. I was a mom now. A MOM. And I just wanted my mom.
I only hope that I can give Ryder the same kind of support, encouragement and positive influence that my mom has given me. I hope that I can make Ryder laugh as hard as my mom makes me laugh. I hope that Ryder and I can some day have a friendship like my mom and I have.
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Yknow, I don’t think I’ve ever told you this, but you’re Mom is a beautiful, beautiful woman and I can see so much of her in you, just from pictures!
It’s such a huge blessing when you can have your Mom there to lend a hand or bend an ear. That’s what Mom’s do best.
And no worries, with your personality, I think you & Ryder will get along famously when he gets older. After all, you are his Mom! Relationships between Mothers & sons are special- you’ll see.
Guys don’t tend to be as close to their mums when they grow older though. Not in the same way girls and mums are. Don’t feel bad if it’s not like your relationship with your mum – it’s just how things are.
Thanks Jeanna! My mom is pretty awesome. I feel lucky to have her, I just wish she wasn’t so far away. And I hope that Ryder and I have as much fun as you and your monkey!
Boo, Ian! Let me have my fantasies!!
True, there will be a “phase” where us kissing them or whatever is totally humiliating- but for the time being, my heart flutters when Miles still reaches out to hold my hand when we cross the street.
Every relationship is different- but I do think that raising boys is a good challenge. Although, it’s not like he’ll have a period and can cry and listen to you say he’s a woman now.
Hah!